It is so important that we remove the stigma of divorce in Christian circles. it is almost as rampant there as in the world, why aren't we helping them heal? Why aren't we helping them truly heal before they get to the divorce? I absolutely agree that church people don't like seeing scars, watching people suffer, or anything uncomfortable. It isn't easy to watch the carnage after the grenade went off, but we are all in a spiritual battle, and battles aren't clean.
I wish that I had healed myself before I jumped into my second marriage. I was in a very emotionally abusive relationship before that one, and I brought that baggage into the second marriage; no wonder he left after two years. Through that second marriage ending, I came back to Christ, and I started the healing process, which is still going through me today in my almost 12-year third marriage.
We are currently going through ReEngage, not sure if you heard about this ministry, but it is AMAZING! It's not a spouse-bashing or blame-based marriage course; it encourages you to look at yourself, draw a circle around yourself, fix what you can within that circle, and allow God to fix your spouse.
I think if more people lived life this way, we would have fewer divorces.
I just looked at their website and it seems like some really good stuff.
Church as a whole is not equipped to handle the ripple effects of divorce. Both my wife & I experienced silence when we were going through ours.
I think two dynamics are at play: one is just the awkwardness around it. People simply just don’t know what to say. Second is politics plain and simple. It’s a hot potato no one wants to handle.
Thank you for your passion for this subject!
It is so important that we remove the stigma of divorce in Christian circles. it is almost as rampant there as in the world, why aren't we helping them heal? Why aren't we helping them truly heal before they get to the divorce? I absolutely agree that church people don't like seeing scars, watching people suffer, or anything uncomfortable. It isn't easy to watch the carnage after the grenade went off, but we are all in a spiritual battle, and battles aren't clean.
I wish that I had healed myself before I jumped into my second marriage. I was in a very emotionally abusive relationship before that one, and I brought that baggage into the second marriage; no wonder he left after two years. Through that second marriage ending, I came back to Christ, and I started the healing process, which is still going through me today in my almost 12-year third marriage.
We are currently going through ReEngage, not sure if you heard about this ministry, but it is AMAZING! It's not a spouse-bashing or blame-based marriage course; it encourages you to look at yourself, draw a circle around yourself, fix what you can within that circle, and allow God to fix your spouse.
I think if more people lived life this way, we would have fewer divorces.
I just looked at their website and it seems like some really good stuff.
Church as a whole is not equipped to handle the ripple effects of divorce. Both my wife & I experienced silence when we were going through ours.
I think two dynamics are at play: one is just the awkwardness around it. People simply just don’t know what to say. Second is politics plain and simple. It’s a hot potato no one wants to handle.
Yeah, I agree.